Sex and Work By Devaki Jain

Anu's Chatter......

The concern of those who are living in the less developed continents of the world such as Africa and South Asia is that what drives women and children into offering sex as a means of earning a livelihood is not personal choice but either poverty or extreme violence at home.

These were the lines that goaded me to read the entire article in a go!

When I read this moving article in todays Times  Middle Page friends, I  wanted  to know more about this person called as Devaki Jain  and women trafficking...!  I googled  and  found  that this woman was a feminist and a social worker .... ....The study  reveals the shameful facts about  the  Trafficking  of a Girl child  and Women in India  and world over. 

 According to Devaki's Studies.....

A 2003/2004 report on trafficking in women and children prepared by the Institute of Social Sciences in collaboration with the National Human Rights Commission and the UNIFEM interviewed 4,006 persons involved in trafficking. The study presents the following findings under the rubric Commercial Sexual Exploitation (CSE)

5 Valerie Kozel, and Barbara Parker 'A Profile and Diagnostic of the Poverty in Uttar Pradesh', World Bank,2001,. Paper presented at a Poverty Monitoring and Evaluation Workshop in New Delhi, hosted by the Government's Planning Commission and the World Bank, 11 January, 2002

68 percent of the victims were lured by promises of jobs and 16.8 percent by promises of marriage and 70 percent of the victims were from deprived sections of society.

- 198 brothels had 615 girls who were 17-18 years of age, 82 brothels had 245 girls who were less than 16 years of age and the highest demand is for virgins.

- At the time of interviews, 860 children were being exploited in the brothels.

Children make the most money for their exploiters in this profitable business. 44.3 percent of those in brothels started their life there when they were less than 18 years, 22.9 percent when less than 16 years, and 60.6 percent were married as children!

Here is another way of looking at Amartya Sen's "missing women": An average of 22,480 women and 44,476 children are reported missing in India every year, out of which 5,452 women and 11,008 children continue to remain untraced. It is suggested that these are the people who are trafficked, as they are sucked into untraceable brothels.

The 2004 UN "World Survey on the Role of Women in Development" says:

"The number of international migrants has risen to about 175 million in 2000, or 2.9 per cent of the world's population, from about 75 million, or 2.5 per cent of the world's population, in 1960. The proportion of women migrants during the same period rose to 49 per cent, from 46.6 per cent. . . . Women may believe that they have legitimate jobs in the new country, only to find that they have been trapped into prostitution, sweatshop work or what are considered other contemporary forms of slavery. The survey notes that "the trafficking of people for prostitution and forced labour is one of the fastest-growing areas of international criminal activity and one that is of increasing concern to the international community."6

Like the practice of aborting female foetuses, trafficking in women cuts across caste and religion, as surveys of sex workers show, for example in Sona Gachi in Kolkota.

‘Dabangg’ for the Remakes

Anu’s Chatter....

‘Dabangg  Salman Khan,’ the man with a bigger heart than his biceps, has been known to launch young talents in the Bollywood industry. After launching Sonakshi Sinha in his movie Dabangg, the latest news is that Salman Khan will launch Aditya Panscholi's son Sooraj and Suniel Shetty's daughter Athiya soon. According to a leading daily, Sooraj and Athiya might debut in the official remake of Subhash Ghai's 1983 blockbuster Hero, that featured Jackie Shroff and Meenakshi Sheshadri in the leads. Me thinks I think people in Bollywood are bereft of scrips now . The big producers are remaking the old films . If I  look  at the  remake of Aneepath  only for one song we all know it is ‘Chikni Chameli’ that brought the audience to the theatres. At least I went to watch that song. Besides that I could not make head and tail of that movie dears.. Yes of course for a Sanjay Dutt's Kancha role ( whoever) and  the child prostitution racket run by Rishi kapoor Errr ( Which is GORY by the very word)he is called as ...err(I have forgotten his name in the movie) I do not remember anything!.....Apart from  Don in my opinion non of the remakes have done well . lets face it , who wants to go to the same movies with different faces..what say? 

Sanju Baba finally goes to Jail..

 Sanjay Dutt, who is facing three-and-a-half years in prison has finally  said that he was ready to go to jail and did yesterday.

Responding to a nationwide debate in India on whether he should be pardoned by the state after being sentenced by the supreme court, Dutt told journalists at his home on Thursday: "There are many other people who deserve pardon. I just want to say with folded hands that when I'm not going for a pardon then there's no debate about it." These words speak volumes!   Having said this ,I am feeling a little low that Sanju will not be seen by us for a period of three and a half years which is long .For  a person who entertained us with amazing performances..through the years...it will be wrong to say that any other actor could have portrayed the roles he did with so much  conviction . For example a Munna bhai is a Munna Bhai . I cannot even for a second visualize any other actor in Sanju's place! 

All said and done guy's I really respect our Sanju Baba .  In the true sense he has proved to be a reel and a real life Hero. His fans will always respect him for his decisions!  Over the years I have seen him change from an aggressive youngman to a simple down to earth responsible actor and a citizen!  Besides I am happy that our Sanju baba will be a free man after three years and he can lead the kind of life he wants with his family and friends. We will all miss you and love you! 

Bollywood's Original Dhak Dhak Girl does an Item number

Anu's Chatter......

I am back again guys with the latest news...I was at the  poster release of Madhuri Dixit's item number in the Ranbir Kapoor- Deepika Padukone starrer Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani . the yesteryears Diva Darlings has come back as an item number .  The diva is in no mood to reveal her look in the song.

The poster was  released by  T- Series, and the song was uploaded on their official YouTube channel . The posters have Dhak Dhak girl turning her back to the audience..., The number titled Ghagra promises to be a desi number in tune with what has been working at the box- office lately.

In the picture, Madhuri dons a ghagra with shiny shades of orange and pink, teaming it up with a black tasseled choli . However, she is expected to have multiple change of costumes in the song.

 I have an observation darlings here - the back in the poster is not the kind of back that we were expecting if you see the poster then you will know....I mean to say it is not that back less blouse that the Item Girls like Mallika sherawat  or for that matter kareena wore in their songs ! It is all very closed..

 I wonder why the Dhak Dhak girl of the 80’s and 90’s wants to come back with  a closed back...A very good reason darlings is Madhuri is married now and she cannot show us what she used to....Then, why these women don't  take a sabbatical? Anyways what we get to see in  a young girl we cannot in a 45 year old mother of two... Yawn Yawn ...What a boring Item number sorry Dhak Dhak....number. See you till the next!

RANBIR KATRINA CAUGHT RED HANDED

RANBIR KATRINA CAUGHT RED HANDED

One chapter in Kat's life closed and the other opened dears it is now the Chapter of on and off relation of Kat and Kapoor boy .  The other day the actors, were spotted  red-handed again by cameraman while they were busy enjoying the car ride.

In a mood to show off his brand new white Mercedes Benz, G class SUV, Ranbir took Katrina for a long drive which ended up being a near disaster.
The recent reports suggest that the couple apparently were so caught up in conversation while driving that they didn't realize that they were in the vicinity of Imran Khans bunglow in Bandra and that very night Imran was hosting a party to celebrate Qayamat Se Qayamat Tak completing 25 years.
Once Ranbir realized that they might be caught on camera, he  panicked and speeded the car. In the rush he narrowly missed a collision.
its still a confusion for me dears wether this guy Ranbir Kapoor is dating Katrina or not!

Miracle!

Hey! When I talk 'bout' this dears I get goose bumps ! Believe you must!
 A couple of years back I was going through a personal crisis of the worst kind.. My life was in doldrums , I was in a mess and my world was crumbling apart! One  day as usual I took the daily bus to work.After sometime a girl in her twenties occupied a seat in front of me. I gave her a wide smile and she complimented me profusely on it! .We continued traveling and I dozed off. As I opened my eyes , after a while, I found  this girl reading a book by Sri Sri. I said.. "My smile is beautiful because we share  the same Guru"...in return ,she smiled  back and we started to talk . Out of  context  she told me a personal  story of miracle.
It was like-

"Two years back one of my friends was doing an advanced course with Sri Sri and on his  last day of the course I had asked him to convey a personal message to Guruji on meeting him, but he forgot.As he  sat on the floor repentant  he saw a pair of feet  next to him. It was non other than Sri Sri..he  simply patted my friend on his shoulder  and said 'Tell your friend , that I am taking care of her.'  My friend... could not just believe that Sri Sri had read his mind and conveyed a message about me!" 

Amidst other gossip...The girl  recounted how she had to chase the bus for a good half  hour, on a bike  with her cousin to take it ! How she was 'hell bent' on taking the same bus instead of the next!  I knew somehow in my heart that I will never  ever meet this girl  or  will be able to strike a chord  with her !But after this incident , I was able to overcome my personal crisis and life has come back to normal!

Moral of the story-Its a Miracle!? Any doubts?

WRITER'S BLOCK....

Anu's Chatter.........

What is a Writers block?
Over the years that I am a writer now ...I cannot write for some days...some days I just flow ... when I cannot( Write naturally) I panic ....I am restless....I want to know the reason ...I try different methods to motivate myself....after much introspection, I realized that the reason I cannot is the reason I am not motivated enough.....  is the Famous Writers block!!!? But motivation I realized comes not always and comes from another space..what is it?That space I know now is the  lack of ambition! Surprised ? But it is true...... the reason is you do not care much ...you are indifferent wether you want to have a vision or not...what ever..now I am pepping myself up and writing and doing my bit for the day...presto! I realize that  after I started to write this blog all my blocks have melted and  I am much motivated enough, energized enough, to write the whole day...is not it dears called as your true calling? Your work gives you the motivation to live and vice-versa?...oh I don't care ..whatever...I am writing soooooo I am living! 

The Art Of Doing Nothing.....

Its like the Art of Living.... I have often heard from women about this !As  every day I  hear  someone say "I am bored because ...I have nothing to do." I wanted to find more on the topic of 'Doing Nothing and Getting Bored' syndrome. So I fished some women and went asking! The first was  a  friend of mine who is earning a five figure salary but did not have the time to look else where but work..... so I figured she must be 'Not Bored' types! Little into the convo...I found her  envying housewives! "What an amazing life they have.... all the time with their families. I am really bored of working!" 

So, next I visited a housewife friend of mine who took a sabbatical from work  to be with her kids. Now she is a 24 /7 mom, turns out her boys are rowdy do not listen to her! She is all  admiration for working women. "Those are the lucky ones and those were the good days when I was off to work from morning till night! I am just waiting for my second one to grow up,so that I can go back to work." "How long that will be?" I ask. "Maybe three maybe four or more..its very boring to be a home maker!"Yes yes." I chip in. 

 By this time I wondered if there was someone out there  'Not Bored'types.  So I went to a lady professor who seemed to be  having time for  herself and her family!  She was like--  what a pain the paper corrections were for a teacher and the she complained about teachers being paid very less etc .  I  protested "You get time with your family don't you in this profession?" "Where?" "They pay less and half of the vacations call us to the university with some pretext  or the other for extra corrections or work. On the pretext?" My eyebrows escape into my hairline. "Is.... that the government  is paying good salary to us teachers with the implementation of the sixth pay.... harassment I tell you." She continues...like her lecture for 40 odd minutes..."I need more money  less corrections and more vacations ...anytime , office goers are much better off!" "Why?" I rejoin.... "They have fixed working hours, no taking work home and salary is good...oh yes they get to dress well too" She said it , as if it was a qualification! Has somebody heard of- 'The other side is always the greener one?' "Yawn I am bored!Please save me !"

Jennifer Lopez's Beauty Dos-

The singer is famous for her glow, but it's not all about access to the best makeup artists. "Beauty comes from inside," says Lopez. "It's been said many times, but I believe it's the truth." She offers tips for being your own radiant best:Take time for yourself. When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you are a better person and parent." That doesn't require a week at a spa: When Lopez has a moment, "I just breathe and clear my mind. Sometimes we just have to do nothing, just breathe."Let whimsy be your stylist. "In terms of style, I encourage other women to first be comfortable but have fun. Life is meant to be fun!"Surround yourself with people who make you laugh. "When I am with my girlfriends, sisters, and cousins, we just say and do ridiculous and silly things. We are Puerto Ricans with a lot of energy. Sometimes it gets loud!"Take to your bed. "Sleep! I think sometimes we get caught up in what we need to do next and forget about what are the very essential and important things in life. I treasure my time to sleep. It's just as important as eating or Exercise."Care for all aspects of your well-being. "I believe that life is a balance of mind, body, and soul. As I journey through my life experience, I have a better understanding of how true this really is. When your life is balanced, you are happy and excel in everything."

TRIVIA-

Forbes estimated Lopez' earnings in the past 12 months at $52 million (32.67 million pounds), and her top ranking is powered by her lucrative gig as a judge on popular television show, "American Idol," a new clothing line at Kohl's, a top-selling fragrance and millions of Twitter and Facebook followers.

NOSTALGIA HITS......

Guys there is a feeling deep in the pit of your stomach , when you come across somethings from your past ..well they can be a few letters, e-mails or any thing that was dear to you in the past...today.... I was browsing the channels and came across the news about Kaka and Dimpi's marriage saga( Dimpi as in Dimple Kapadia)  nostalgia hit me. It was being announced as the best romance of Bollywood and how the couples marriage was 'THE NEWS' across the nation in the 70's...it was the first thing that was shown in  the theaters to the public before the actual screening of the film... the feeling hit me along with the memory..... as a child I remember going to the cinemas with my parents and watching the wedding film of Kaka and Dimple....That done when I opened my machine to check mail and was browsing though my files guys.... I came across a couple of leads that I had compiled three years back that became popular cause of the words  I used and the way I had written .....My Anoo's mag( On Line Lifestyle magazine) went on to became one of the most popular online mags that got rave reviews..as  the nostalgia begets I wast no time to share and post them-

The making of Kabini    (By: Dr Anuradha Prasad)

“Kabini is still untouched, serene and natural, transports a hungry traveler to the heights of divine quality of human nature. Because it connects to a part of his natural origin that is ravaged by the advent of civilization, a visit to the place brings back the hidden primal emotions that could be primitive yet natural, exotic yet divine! Basically visiting Kabini was like going back home to the humble beginnings of the man kind!”

FASHION   ( By: Dr Anuradha Prasad) 

I bring to you my all time ‘fav’ Indian designer……..who has given the traditional style a glamour exceeding the excellent , wove Indian rustic designs  into sophisticated chic fashions……. she gave  boutique prints her own characteristic appeal … which were otherwise relegated to the back lanes of Calcutta only used by a few rustic artisans nobody cared to look…Indian fashion Industry thrived under her creative scalpel and a new designer in the global market was born….As she stands today at the helm of Indian fashion Industry after five decades as a doyenne of designs …nothing less or more can describe her  fashion-fiesta like her own designs can….. She is Ritu kumar…