what does not work for me with people even if they are close to me-----
A bickering attitude--- always saying 'how difficult life was for them .How they really really hate it!'The worst is after a while , they focus their attention on-- 'how lucky someone else was in a similar situation or how lucky the person in front of them was for having all the good things of life?' I try and avoid people who get into these ---’God I am so Unhappy chatter mode’ for the most part! 5 minutes with them and you want to run in a different direction! But I had no answer to why I was doing so?
On the other hand I know a couple of people who make me feel good after talking to them.Even though the talk can veer sometimes from general to gossip! ( I love ‘good gossiping’ . I am sure everybody does!)I always get a lot of answers to nagging day to day questions after talking to these women , because of which they are much sought after,when I am struggling to get answers to questions I cannot answer!
The other day I called one friend out of those ‘two’ who happened to be my all time calming agent.
We spoke for a while about life, families, problems with kids, parents and lastly friends. I leant a new term called -Spiritual dustbins..
According to her there are some people who use others as dustbins.
That was interesting to me....I wanted to know how that was possible?
“When you converse with someone for a while you should end up feeling good but you may not.”
“ Yes ,yes but why?” I asked .
“Because they may use you to unburden their negative emotions .Their talks are full of how bad their life is. Worst they are full of resentment . I call them spiritual garbages and make you into a dustbin to pour out their negativities to feel good themselves. In the end you feel depleted.”
I agreed with her and got the answer to my that days tingling question about--
‘WHY SOME PEOPLE CANNOT MAKE YOU HAPPY EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE VERY CLOSE TO YOU ?! Is not it amazing? Thank you friend.